From Lonely to Love: Through Self Care, 7 Ways to Fall in Love
You have to take into consideration that when seeking love, it starts with you and how you love yourself. If you don’t love yourself, then how can you assume someone else will know how to love you in the way you need to be loved? If you aren’t confident that you are worth being loved, you can’t expect your mate to help figure that out. This is where self-care comes into play.
Many relationships start out great and with the best intentions yet end up in a ball of flames. There are many factors that come into play, like lack of, communication, love, respect, emotion, intimacy, compassion, affection, self-love, and a combination thereof.
You put yourself in the position to provide the things your partner needs to feel understood, loved, and connect to you, when you genuinely respect and love yourself. Nevertheless, the capacity to nurture the emotional intimacy for your significant other’s needs, will go a long way towards making yourself and your relationship stronger.
Beginning today, what can you do to work towards the love you deserve? Give these methods a try:
1. Eliminate self-criticism. Today’s world is raging with thoughts like “I looked better in my younger years!”, “No one will love me until l lose this weight.”, and “Who’s going to ask me out looking like this?” This mind-space comes directly from social media and how it caters to perfection.
No matter where you look, there’s a post of someone looking younger and thinner than they truly are. Images like these make it harder for someone to be objective about the state of their health or appearance. It also makes it challenging to accept and love yourself, when you get an overload of all that negativity, which also lowers your self-esteem.
Find something that takes your mind off the negativity. This strategy will help reprogram your mind and fill it with positive thoughts, but it will also enhance your mood. Removing the stream of negative thoughts in your mind will move you closer to accepting and loving yourself. Allow time to process your thoughts, filter out negative ones, then replace them with thoughts that make you feel good about yourself.
2. Forgive yourself. Learn to give yourself grace and forgive any wrong doings you had a part in making happen. You must forgive yourself with the intent of loving yourself. Not forgiving yourself will lead to constant feelings of remorse and regret, making it close to impossible for you to truly love yourself.
3. Do things that uplift you. There are a lot of things you can do to make yourself happy, but it’s important for you to always do things that keep joy in your life. For instance, you may want to incorporate walks, healthy eating, and fun online courses that cater to the activities you love doing the most. These things will make you more positive and feel better about life.
4. Program your positive self-talk. When a negative thought comes across your mind, ignore it. Don’t tell yourself you’ll never be successful, instead say, you’ll do great things in due time! Talk yourself up and boost your self-esteem by having a positive perspective of who you are as a person. Be your own best friend, hype man, and cheerleader!!
5. Work on yourself mentally and physically. It doesn’t matter if it’s studying a new language, learning a new skillset, or taking up dancing, adding to your personality will make all the difference in your life. Someone who works on their mind and body often sees the results they want out of life. Adding said accolades will not only make you feel good, but others will take note of and appreciate your accomplishments also.
6. Find your happy place. It can be somewhere that provides you with solitude like your back deck with a cup of tea, a quiet room with a view, on a nice car ride. It can also be something as grand as going to the beach, camping in a forest, or going on a hike to a waterfall. Either way, chose a place that will help you recharge your energy and clear your mind.
7. Practice letting go. Releasing emotional baggage will allow you to live the way you want instead of living the way you think you should. Releasing negative feelings will help your relationships and improve your worldview.
The trick to living the life you desire and finding the companion you want to share life with, is by learning to know and love yourself. To develop a greater self-love, keep these techniques in mind.
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