Manage Self-Talk to Improve Your Lifestyle.
Self-talk is an integral stable in your life. You begin speaking to yourself when you get up in the morning and do not stop until you doze off to sleep in the evening. Who would’ve thought you had so much going on in your mind nonstop? But you do!
When self-talk is positive and helpful to our mental state, awesome things take place. When self-talk is unfavorable or negative, life can be a lot tougher than it needs to be. We tend to wonder off into things our mind made up and run with it like it’s factual information.
Like much of who you are, your type of self-talk is a behavior that has actually been molded by your experiences as well as your environment. Vision how your life could transform for the better, if you had the ability to change your self-talk into something way more supporting and motivating. You would see a difference in your perception, you could decrease stressful situations, and more importantly, manage transference from those around you.
You can begin living that life today! Just tackle these easy steps to start out:
1. Make a list of your negative self-talk expressions and perspectives. For 24-hours, jot down everything (big or small) that you say to yourself that is negative, despite whether you believe it’s true make note of it. Here are a couple of examples to get you started.
- “I wish I could be kissed like that.”
- “I’m not good enough to dance like that.”
- “I could never look as good as her.”
- “Things will never get better for me.”
2. Prioritize your list. Which things have the greatest adverse effect on your life and your sense of happiness? Put the checklist in order, from most negative impact to least.
- Prioritizing is very important due to the fact that it will require you to invest your time on the most crucial things first. You’ll want to knock out the things that bother you to the core, so they don’t continue to shape how you feel about yourself.
3. Make a different list. Since you have made your list, you’re going to enhance it. Convert a minimum of the first 10 things on your list into positive ideas. If you’re really feeling inspired, you can revise more.
- It’s alright to not believe the new, favorable suggestion, simply change it into a positive version anyway. For example, “I could never do that” changes to, “I can do that, I just have to figure out how it can be done.”
4. Change your mindset. Now, for the challenging part of this. Each time you catch yourself using self-talk in a negative manner, replace the statement with a new positive self-talk expression.
- Be steadfast at all times. Considering the number of times you may have said the negative thing to yourself, this new practice will need a great deal of focus. The good news is that with time, the positive statements you say to yourself will end up becoming a habit! Correcting and believing in the positive statements will change your view and mindset so you can conquer bigger and better things that come along.
5. Move further down on your list. After you’ve dominated the 10 most negative things, look at the rest of the list and consider how it would improve your life if you were to alter the remaining items. You might have created such positive practices with your first 10 items that the remainder of them may be a piece of cake to change!
- Self-talk will constantly be there, so it will certainly be beneficial to your life to gain some control over it. Anything you constantly hear about yourself, you begin to believe. That’s the way our minds work. Managing your positive self-talk means you’re in control of what you hear and believe.
For example:
Let’s say you’ve been told you are too short to play a sport. Too big to be a climber. Too loud to be the greatest librarian. Not smart enough for a high-powered position. Not rich enough to change your circumstances. Not skilled enough to have your dream job/career. Not good enough for anyone to love.
These are things people hear on a daily basis from those who either want to keep them in a position of weakness or are afraid of being left behind when the person actually starts to doubt him or herself. Hearing such negative statements, will really have you believing that they are true because it’s said to you so often. You even start to shape your self-talk around the thought, and you end up doing the dirty work for the person keeping you down. Hence the statement: “They live in your mind rent free.” They don’t have to do anything more because they have planted the seed and you have picked up where they left off.
I need you to take back control by managing your self-talk and giving yourself the freedom to be happy. If you need permission do so, I am giving it to you now. You have the power to make your life as enjoyable as you wish it to be. You can start to do that by way of practicing self-talk every day. Don’t allow your mind to wonder aimlessly down a rabbit hole. Reel it in by being your own hype man/woman and become your new best friend. Build yourself up so you shine beyond the expectations of others. You’ll soon see that self-talk management, will be your favorite thing to do. Don’t be afraid to embrace it and keep it going.
The initial step in acquiring that self-control is to keep track of your feelings and thoughts. When this happens, you’ll be able to manage your self-talk into a more positive route. Similar to all routines, these self-talk patterns can become challenging, but doing so will truly boost the way you see yourself and the happiness from within. There’s no time like the present, so get started today!
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